Tag Archives: emotional awareness

Hello Universe: Self Care

7 Nov

What I Want

I want to feel better.  I am still feeling sick, so I’m tired and I’m struggling to find motivation.  I want to provide myself with the self care necessary to make me healthy.

The Potential I Can See

I can nap.

I can go to bed early.

I can eat well– chicken soup and an abundance of fruit come to mind.

I can acknowledge how I feel and what I need.

My Commitment

I commit to being gentle with myself.  There is so much I want to do, but it will all be easier once I feel better and have some energy available.  I don’t need to put pressure on myself out of pride or a misguided sense of obligation.

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What makes you feel better when you’re sick?

Seeds Planted #7

29 Oct

Autumn in Spokane“Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant.” – Robert Louis Stevenson

The weekly reminder that I can and do make an effort to progress every week, no matter how frustrated I feel.

  1. I wrote three blog posts for my new skiing project.  (This one surprised me — I felt like I’d been procrastinating on that project, but instead I made some progress.)
  2. I’m still paying attention to my emotions.  It’s getting easier.
  3. I spent a little quality time with my roommate.  We just drove into Coeur d’Alene and had dinner, but it was nice.
  4. I feel like I’m starting to make a friend at work and that I’m becoming a little friendlier with everyone I work with in general.
  5. I found a theme for 2012.  That was completely unexpected; I wasn’t thinking about next year at all, but I think I’ll really enjoy my return to childhood.

I also saw some results from last week — I had a response to one of my job applications!  I expect to hear more details next week.

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Honestly, it’s been a frustrating week.  Before I found the Stevenson quote I’d never considered measuring my progress with anything but results; I appreciate the reminder that my effort is worthwhile.

Hello Universe: Joyful Movement

24 Oct
Chestnut Tree

It's a joyful tree.

Last week’s effort to increase my emotional awareness was educational and interesting.  I’ve glad I made that a priority and I plan to continue to pay attention to what I am feeling.  It sounds so basic when I write it out, but it felt like a revelation.

Wednesday I wished to spend more time playing and more time living in my body.  This week I’m asking the Universe to help me combine those wishes into some joyful movement.

What I Want

I want to make a habit of joyfully moving and enjoying my body.  I want to live in my body and love every second of it.

I’ve frequently thought that I should get more exercise — I always feel good after exercising and it’s good for my body.  However, that’s not a very interesting approach, and it’s not surprising that I can typically think of something better to do.  This week I want to focus on enjoying my body and what she/we/I can do.

The Potential I Can See

I can play!

I can get out my skirt and belly dance.

I can do some of the yoga poses that make me feel strong.

I can take walks and run down the hills.

I could put on some music and dance around the apartment — this is why YouTube exists.

I can also be open to a universe of possibilities that I haven’t even thought of yet.

My Commitment

I commit to trying something new every day this week and paying attention to the amount of joy I feel.  I commit to repeating the fun stuff and passing over the boring stuff.

I commit to loving my body and spending some time with her/me.

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How do you find joy in your body?

The Artist’s Way: Recovering a Sense of Power

23 Oct

Chapter 3 talked about anger and I felt it, along with fear, frustration, and resentment.  I’m very glad I’m keeping up with the morning pages; it’s a neutral place for me to dump all that negativity.  I can write it down, examine it as I type, and move on without having to dwell on it because it’s living in my head.

I’m getting better at identifying my fears which is very helpful.  If I look at them and see them for what they are, instead of just feeling afraid without quite knowing why, I can learn to move forward and not be held back by those fears.  All of this is an example of synchronicity — I set the intention to spend the week focusing on emotional awareness before I read chapter three.

This week’s artist’s date was fun.  I went for a walk and took pictures of autumn.  I have a tendency to use the word “should” a lot when it comes to the camera — probably the reason I rarely take pictures — but today I did a nice job of pointing the camera at things that interested me without worrying about what I might be missing.  That’s the big lesson I’ve learned from this project thus far: progress, not perfection.

As far as tasks go, I answered the 20 “detective work” questions, made a list of supportive friends, and made an effort to stay in touch with them.  I’m not geographically close to many of my friends, so I find Facebook very helpful…perhaps not what Julia Cameron envisioned in 1992, but I’m glad I have more options than the telephone.

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Two questions from chapter three resonated with me and I would love to hear your responses:

1.  If I had had a perfect childhood, I’d have grown up to be…

2.  My God (whatever definition you use) thinks artists are…

3 Quick Tips to Cultivate Emotional Awareness

21 Oct

Earlier this week I set a goal to be more attentive to how I’m feeling, to encourage a sense of emotional awareness.  I enjoyed the practice and I’d like to continue it, so here’s what I found helpful:

  1. Find a trigger.  When are you going to ask yourself how you’re feeling?  It’s too difficult to just remember to do it, so having a time or action to prompt you can be very helpful.  I took a minute (and it really only takes a minute) during my drive to work, on each of my three breaks at work, as I walked into my apartment after work, and just before going to sleep to check in with myself.  Having several different triggers gives you plenty of opportunity to cultivate awareness, even if you happen to miss a couple or it turns out that one of your triggers isn’t very effective.
  2. Awareness does not necessitate action.  Start off small.  Notice how you are feeling and if you can easily make an improvement, feel free to do so.  However, the initial goal is to get in the habit of noticing our emotions, nothing more.  Telling ourselves we have to immediately change every negative emotion creates an enormous burden; why would we turn that burden into a habit?  Instead, note your feelings, offer yourself some compassion, and move on.  Do not get caught up in negative self-talk.
  3. Write it down.  Once or twice a day, I actually write down a sentence or two about what I’m feeling.  Nothing long, just enough to acknowledge my emotions.  It helps when I’m struggling to identify them, and it helps illustrate patterns.  Right now the patterns aren’t important, but once emotional awareness has become a habit, we’re going to want to change the negative patterns and encourage the positive ones.

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How do you cultivate emotional awareness?  How do you incorporate how you feel into your life in a helpful way?

Hello Universe: Emotional Awareness

15 Oct

I’ve very pleased with how well I did practicing compassion this week.  These weekly goals are very helpful for me; they give me a way to focus without putting on undue pressure.

This week, I would like to bring my attention to my awareness of my emotional needs.  I tend to ignore how I’m feeling until it builds up into something explosive, which can sometimes cause unnecessarily impulsive actions.  I’d rather treat myself with a little more compassion.

What I Want

I want to be more attentive to how I’m feeling and what I’m having those feelings.  I want to be able to make small adjustments before I have to make major changes.  I want to pay attention to my needs and address them with love and compassion.

The Potential I Can See

As is so often the case, simply wanting to make this change should be a good start.  Once I begin the practice of acknowledging how I feel and making compassionate improvements, I’ll be able to refine the practice as needed.

My Commitment

I commit to being attentive.  I commit to being open to feeling that I typically would ignore or try to quash.  I commit to treating myself with care and compassion.  I commit to trusting myself and listening to what my emotions are trying to communicate.

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How to do your emotions influence you?  Do you feel like you’re consistently aware of them and ready to act on them?