I wasn’t sure what I wanted to bring my attention to this week. I did quite well staying focused and maintaining some discipline in the past week, but part of me kept saying that a week, even a successful week, isn’t enough. It can’t possibly be a habit yet, can it? What if it’s just a fluke and I haven’t really made any progress?
Fortunately the larger part of me had the sense to remember that I am after progress, not perfection. No, a week isn’t long enough to turn a goal into a habit, but that was never the point. The point was to try being more focused and disciplined and not only did I try, I did quite nicely. I was tempted to make this week’s goal “smothering my Voice of Defeat with a pillow,” but I had a better idea.
What I Want
I want to learn self-compassion. I actually had to do a little research for this because I’ve never really thought about it before, and the best definition I found is from The Free Dictionary:
“Deep awareness of the suffering of another coupled with the wish to relieve it.”
The Potential I Can See
I think learning to treat myself with compassion will help me with most of my current goals.
- It will help me connect with others, and form healthy, loving relationships.
- I’ll learn to compassionately acknowledge the problem, instead of completely over-thinking it.
- It will help me be less judgmental about my original core story, making it easier for me to let go and build something better.
- I’m trying to create a career, prepare to leave Spokane, and a few other adventures. It won’t always go as planned, and learning compassion will help me treat myself with care and kindness so I can continue to progress, even after failure.
I commit to paying attention to these signs from Randy Taran that I’m being more critical than is necessary:
- Comparing myself to others and putting myself down
- Giving up on doing something because I feel it’s hopeless
- Worrying about what might happen in the future
- Being a perfectionist
I commit to trying to remember these steps to empathy from Ode Magazine:
- Just like me, this person is seeking happiness in his/her life.
- Just like me, this person is trying to avoid suffering in his/her life.
- Just like me, this person has known sadness, loneliness and despair.
- Just like me, this person is seeking to fill his/her needs.
- Just like me, this person is learning about life.
Are you offering yourself compassion? Here’s a test to evaluate how self-compassionate you are. Any advice for being more compassionate, both toward myself or others?